I Deserve More Then My Wife Is Giving Me
I re-read the title and I laughed, "You know its true. I deserve a heck of a lot more then she is giving me." I look back over the last 34 years and think how much differently our relationship would be if she had just given over what I deserve; what is mine. I know it sounds selfish, but hey if it is my right then bring it on!
But she hasn't, and it isn't because she is selfish, but because she is full of grace and compassion. I was thinking about it this morning as I heard her behind me working (we have the same office). She is contentious and thorough, and yet she asked me what I wanted for lunch and what appealed to me for supper. Last night as I watched the Packer Game she was busy wrapping Christmas presents and planning for our trip.
Yes, I have deserved more over the years:
- More rebuke
- More criticism
- More resentment
- More loathing
- More bitterness
But that isn't what she gave me; she gave me her heart and love. She is the epitome of a Proverbs 31 Woman.
Faith -- Rebecca has believed when doubt threatened to steal my joy. She has served the Lord tirelessly and has trusted His promises in the darkest days of our marriage.
Marriage -- Rebecca has respected me when I did not deserve it, stood by when I made senseless decisions, and protected me when others would tear me down.
Mothering -- She poured her life into our children, nurtured them with compassion, taught them to be better men, and corrected them with love.
Health -- I will live longer because she cooks healthy meals when I would rather eat pizza. She encourages me to go the doctor when I would tough it out on my own, and when I am sick she cares for me with a selfless heart, even when all I have is the "man" flu.
Service -- She thinks of others before her self, looks for ways to encourage, and goes out of her way to call and write those who are in need. She is one of the most charitable people I know.
Finances -- She is great with numbers and handles the finances in our home. She is frugal and mindful of our responsibilities and yet for our need to enjoy life. She doesn't assume my input is unnecessary and desires our financial partnership.
Industrious -- She seldom grumbles or complains, she does her work for the glory God, and thanks him for the good gifts we have received.
Homemaking -- She has created an atmosphere of warmth and love, where our children enjoyed bringing their friends, and all our guests feel comfortable.
Time -- She uses her time wisely as she divides it between work, church, ministry, and me. There isn't a second that is without purpose, and seldom is it for herself.
Beauty -- Rebecca sees inner beauty as of far greater value then the trappings of the flesh, but she doesn't let herself go. She presents herself as the beautiful woman that God created, and does so even if it is just for me.
This is the precious gift that God has given me, a wife of 34 years, who has withheld what I deserve and lavished me with more then I could ever have dreamed. I love her today more deeply then ever before. I'm just saying....over and over.